Reclaiming Those Special Days

Be sure to check out the last post about Dinner for One in my Thriving after Divorce Section. 

I don’t know about you but I like looking on Facebook where they show you,  “This Day in History.” I love seeing my past posts, pictures and friends that we may have forgotten about. Helps reconnect with those who has shared in your experiences. I usually post mostly positive things, quotes, places I have been great selfies and more. But it is those days and moments that were once special that now turn to a sad memory. Take for example, today is October 13, 2015 and 3 years ago today I had my wedding.

So I am scrolling down looking at my  wedding photos, people tagging me saying congratulation, blessings, etc. I actually am not as sad as I could be. I had an amazing wedding. Everyone said it was the most beautiful. I let my ex-husband win on doing a foot washing ceremony and it turned out so lovely. I HATE FEET! And I had to touch those bad boys… in my tight wedding dress. Anyways, it was beautiful. I walked down the aisle to Anthony Hamilton’s And the Point of It All- my favorite. People from all over were there witnessing this blessed and joyous event. I was so
happy.

So here it is as I go down memory lane, I was like how do I take this day back. What are some ways to have a new memory attached to this day? Anniversaries are huge, birthdays, first’s, deaths and more. They hold memories and smells and songs- things are always reminding you and me of a fond or sad memory. This is something for me, ways to reclaim those special days and maybe this can help you.

How today started:
Woke up and of course reached for my phone. Scrolling through my social media. Then there was FB and I was reminded of what day it was. Unbothered, well maybe just a little bothered, I decided to post on FB, ” Today in history 3 years ago I had my wedding… Today I uncelebrate that! Not a word I know… Lol huge learning experience. Oh and if y’all have those events in your today in history , y’all do not have to share it. Thanks. Well moving right along… Happy Tuesday. Check out my blog”  I got some sweet encouragement and messages.

I was getting ready for work blasting Spotify and then God started comforting me through song,

And I was so moved. These words played all day! I was already on a high from my first periscope called, “6 Ways How I Got My Life After Divorce” be sure to check it out. What put me on that high was getting a message from a viewer who was moved and that she was excited that she caught it.

The Celebration:
I was talking with a friend and I let her know and she was like you have to take the day back. She said I needed to celebrate. I was like how? So I started coming up with some ideas of what to do. So I went home during lunch and decided to have ice cream with chocolate. If you know me, you know that little things mean so much to me.

The Finale:
Of course there is wine! And a car naming ceremony. So today on October 13, 2015 we named my new car “Boogie” not bougie but boogie like dancing! 🙂 I had my periscope family come up with names that would fit my little car and I am so excited.

I asked others what would be some ideas for Reclaiming Those Special Days and this is what they said:

• Go and spoil yourself
• Try something new
• Try new restaurants and claiming it as your restaurant rather than “our”
• Dress up and go out
• Have a funky cocktail at a new bar
• Send your ex a NICE thank you card
• Go on a trip
• Go to the spa
• Do things that the ex would not do
• Write a letter to your future husband and how they should treat you
• Make a relationship time capsule to open 3 months into your future relationship
• Photoshoot
• Glamping- Glamorous camping

 Always remember:

What are some ideas you think that would help? What are some other memories or days that would hold special feelings for someone?

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Peace and Blessings,
CicelyRenee